Pressure to be Present

Pause for a moment.  Allow yourself time to take a deep breath.  Look around.  Soak in the sensations of the moment.  Notice thoughts and worries racing through your head.

It appears more and more common knowledge that being present is vital to our mental health and well-being.  The trouble with us humans is that we have all these pesky “unwanted” thoughts.  While being present is beneficial, it bothers me to think of thoughts as unwanted.  Those thoughts we try to push away to be ever-present are, in part, what makes us who we are.  Those worries and concerns for our lives are perhaps proof of our sanity.

At 97 my grandma has developed dementia enough that she can’t live on her own. She has good days and bad.  The decline is not linear.  I am not attempting to put a positive spin on dementia, but I am trying to see the positives in a sad and trying situation.  My Grandma still remembers us.  That may not last forever.  Her dementia hasn’t made her agitated.  It’s estimated that 90% of dementia patients experience aggression, agitation, and depression.  She shows minimal signs of irritability.  In her confusion, she looks more childlike.

Pressure to be Present2024-01-11T12:54:07-05:00

Most Beautiful Place on Earth

“Namibia,” the flight attendant said when I asked her where the most beautiful place she’d ever been was.  It took us years to get there after her suggestion, but we finally made it last month.  There is a lot of pressure on a country when someone tells you it’s the most beautiful place they’ve ever been. I kept trying to remind myself to curb my expectations.  How else would Namibia have a fighting chance?

Matt and I spent hours of our trip (there were many lengthy car rides) discussing what makes a place beautiful and how we rank or rate beauty.  Architecture can be beautiful.  A landscape can be stunning.  A sunrise or rainbow with no specific place can catch your eye.  Does a beach or a mountain provide more beauty? I love the mountains.  Others prefer the beach.  How does your mood in any given moment impact how you perceive a place?  Can a spectacular place override any mood?

Namibia is striking.  I found myself gobsmacked more than once and audibly and unintentionally would utter, “wow” in the awe of the landscape before me.  One sunset we rode ATVs across the desert […]

Most Beautiful Place on Earth2023-07-18T17:20:44-04:00

Enjoy Exercise

When was the last time you enjoyed exercise?  If we change the word exercise to movement, when was the last time you enjoyed moving?  It’s time to enjoy exercise again!

Enjoy Exercise Like A Child

Not long ago I was teaching my 2 and 2.5-year-old nephews to plank (as you do).  One of them was really taken with it.  He’d hold the plank for about two seconds and then pop up out of it (as you do when you’re two), look at me and say, “AGAIN!,” with earnest excitement.  Then he’d shout an eager, “YES!” as he set his hands up on the ground to come back into plank.  This cycle was repeated multiple times.  I was overjoyed to see someone so unabashedly enjoy exercise.

What Moves Do You Love?

I love to move.  That doesn’t mean that I never have to coax myself into it.  There are times when getting started is hard for me.  But overall I love the way moving feels. I look forward to taking a Pilates class, walking with Matt when he gets home from work, and running with my friends.  I like the way it feels when a tough […]

Enjoy Exercise2020-09-18T15:13:33-04:00

Finding happiness

Being in motion on a long hike makes me happy. Here I am at a camp on Mt. Kili.

Figuring out  and finding happiness has consumed me lately.  I’ve been reading a lot about it. What makes us happy?  As far as I can tell, what makes us happy is a series of contradictions.  You need a stable government, unless you live in Mexico and then apparently you are happy without one.  Earning more than $70,000 per year supposedly doesn’t lead to greater happiness according to statistics, except that in the very specific places where people are the most happy individual income is higher overall.  You need freedom, but one of the happiest towns in the United States has a lot of restrictions.

In all my reading and research I can pinpoint four things that seem to truly make people happy—good relationships, volunteering or doing good for others, a sense of purpose, and your perspective.

Here are just a couple tips, using the four points above as a reference, to try and increase your happiness quota:

  • Get together with good friends at regular intervals. Have a monthly dinner club, or book club, or […]
Finding happiness2018-02-14T15:58:45-05:00
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